When meeting someone for the first time, use the opportunity to practice the art of giving a great first impression. The secret? Make it about them and not you. This is very simple to do if you have the courage to be yourself and forget the societal rules we’ve all been taught. It’s a simple process but does require practice and minor preparation on your part.
I’ll let you in on a little secret – everyone just wants to feel a little better. If you can help them do this they’ll remember you for a long time. As Maya Angelou said – “people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Pretty simple stuff, eh?
We make it harder than it needs to be because many walk around with closed hearts and preoccupied minds while frantically looking for their own little bit of positivity. By helping them out you will secure a place in their heart and mind.
I recommend taking time to stop being one of the Walking Dead and begin enjoying life and living on your terms. All it takes is a decision by you. Begin to develop a sense of gratitude about anything and everything coming your way. This is where I have the advantage – since my TBI it’s now a habit to realize how wonderful life is. I’m constantly giving thanks for the great things I encounter during the day.
- Many people you encounter during the day aren’t at peace with themselves. They are on a constant mission to fill the void they feel inside themselves. Use this as your opportunity to connect with the person and help them feel a little better.
When meeting someone new practice being in the NOW and be fully focused upon them. Nothing else matters in this moment. You want to establish a meaningful connection with this person. While in the NOW, practice opening your heart and finding something unique and positive to say about them. It sounds much more difficult than it really is – learn to listen with your eyes and heart and you’ll discover many items to choose from.
- Now introduce yourself and comment on something positive you observed about them. Pay them a compliment. Notice something unusual in how they conduct themselves. Comment on something they’re passionate about. It doesn’t really matter what it is or what you do – just do it authentically and with an open heart. Then watch the magic happen.
I now give thanks for the “difficult” moments because they are a reminder that not long ago I wouldn’t have been able to tell the difference. I give a silent “thanks” for my progress and reaffirm that I’m getting stronger every day. Just like the ol’ Chicago song, eh?
Start to realize your awesomeness, unique talents, viewpoints, and capacity to love. Be on the lookout for ways to help others ease their pain and put a smile on their face.
A great way to do this is to develop the habit of thinking differently and appreciating yourself. Then go forth and spread the love.
Have some fun with life and the next time someone asks you how you’re doing have some unusual and memorable responses at your fingertips.
- “Like a dog going for a ride with the window down.”
- “I’m doing totally awesome! And you?”
- “Like just acing my last final exam.”
- “My future’s so bright I’ve got to wear shades!”
- “Like a kid going to Disneyland for the first time.”
A great 1st impression will last. Again, do it in a way that fits your style while leaving a memorable positive impression with the other person. Trust me on this – your life will begin changing for the better almost instantly.